It’s been nearly a year since she last dated another man, and it’s been a rough one for her.
After finding herself stuck with the responsibility of raising their son in a new home without a steady paycheck, she found herself questioning whether her new partner, a woman named Jodi, was ready for a new start.
“I was like, ‘Wow, he’s like this dude that I met when I moved in,'” she told Polygon.
“It’s not the same, but it’s a lot different.”
“I thought I was gonna be like, Wow, this is not the man I wanted to be with.
It’s not really about me.”
After years of dealing with infertility and being unable to get pregnant, Jodi had finally decided to settle down with someone who could make a life for herself, even if it meant giving up her career as a corporate IT specialist.
“She said, ‘I’m just gonna do what I can to help you find a relationship that works for you,'” she said.
“So I kind of looked at her like, Oh, wow.
And then I got a call a couple months later from a guy who’s a real nice guy and he was like: ‘Hey, I’ve got a friend who’s also a single person and we’re just gonna hook up for a couple of weeks.
We’ll meet up and we’ll have sex.
I just need you to come over.'”
“It was a weird time.”
The two had met through mutual friends and then moved into a two-bedroom apartment in Seattle where Jodi lived with her mother and a girlfriend.
But that was only the beginning of the challenges they faced.
“For me, my life was really in turmoil for the last two years,” she said, recounting the painful aftermath of a breakup and the painful transition she faced as a single woman in Seattle.
“When I met Jodi and we met, I was like wow, this guy I’ve been seeing, I thought I would just be a stay-at-home mom.
I’d be like my kid, I’m gonna be the stay-home dad.”
But she soon realized the man who was supposed to be her long-term partner wasn’t really the man she wanted to see in the relationship.
“He was the guy who was never going to love me.
He was just going to be a guy,” she recalled.
I’ve really gotten better, and now I’m actually just like a real good person.” “
But then I did and it was really cool, and he came back and I’m like, I’ll never regret that.
I’ve really gotten better, and now I’m actually just like a real good person.”
“It felt like it was going to never end.”
And then it did.
While Jodi continued to work for Microsoft, she was finally able to move back into her own apartment with a partner and children.
“Then I was going through this divorce,” she explained.
“We were trying to sort out my finances and things like that.
And I had a really hard time because I’m in this relationship.
So I went into counseling and I started to work on my own finances.”
And Jodi began to feel more comfortable with her own financial situation, as well.
“My finances were just a little bit more stable than they were before I had to be at work, but I’m just a single mom, so that was hard,” she told us.
“In the beginning, it was hard to see Jodi as my partner and really be able to get a sense of where my financial situation was.
And it’s not like I was having to do all of these things.
It was just a matter of being there.”
But Jodi found that Jodi was able to make her own decisions about her finances.
She started paying her bills and she started to have some financial security.
“The things I was able, and really I’m so grateful to Jodi for making me the way I am, she’s just a really good person,” she added.
“There’s a certain level of trust and trust that you have with a person, and she was like the person I wanted, and there’s something really nice about that.”
And with Jodi’s help, Jodie and her family have been able to rebuild their lives.
“Every single week I go to the grocery store, I make sure I get all the groceries for my family,” she recounted.
“If I have to have dinner out, I get the plates and I cook for the whole family.”
“The thing is, we’re living on the edge right now,” she continued.
“People aren’t seeing us as anything other than a couple people who are just trying to be happy.”
The only problem is that it’s hard to live on that edge.
“Our finances are not really secure,” she admitted.